Love, Lust and Sensitivity: Lessons From Samson’s Downfall

15 And she said unto him, How canst thou say, I love thee, when thine heart is not with me? thou hast mocked me these three times, and hast not told me wherein thy great strength lieth.

16 And it came to pass, when she pressed him daily with her words, and urged him, so that his soul was vexed unto death;

17 That he told her all his heart, and said unto her, There hath not come a razor upon mine head; for I have been a Nazarite unto God from my mother’s womb: if I be shaven, then my strength will go from me, and I shall become weak, and be like any other man.

18 And when Delilah saw that he had told her all his heart, she sent and called for the lords of the Philistines, saying, Come up this once, for he hath shewed me all his heart. Then the lords of the Philistines came up unto her, and brought money in their hand.

19 And she made him sleep upon her knees; and she called for a man, and she caused him to shave off the seven locks of his head; and she began to afflict him, and his strength went from him.

20 And she said, The Philistines be upon thee, Samson. And he awoke out of his sleep, and said, I will go out as at other times before, and shake myself. And he wist not that the Lord was departed from him.

Judges 16:15-20

Happy Saturday! And welcome to all the new followers who have joined since the start of 2018 – I really do appreciate you following and interacting with my posts and content.

So I’m still looking at the life of Samson, fascinated by his relationship with Delilah, and I wanted to share a few simple thoughts on what I took away from these verses.

Be wise with your words

How canst thou say, I love thee, when thine heart is not with me?

I can probably count on two fingers the people (outside my family) who I have said these three words to. I love you. Personally, it’s not a phrase that I ever want to become too familiar to my own lips, and can often feel uncomfortable when spoken by another prematurely. And oh how awkward it can become to speak these words to the object of your afffection, no knowing their response, or to hear someone utter these words to you with no recipricity. Unfortunately, I have been in the latter situation once too often, and remember hearing it from a guy I was seeing, and him then anticipating a grand show of love. Erm, no…

Nowadays I love you is often mistaken with I lust you. Sadly, many Christians get wrapped up in lust before they even reach the stage of love, and as the emotion feels so real and intense, they carry on in such loving lustfull relationships, unaware of the traps laid out before them.

Be wise. Evaluate your “love” and assess it according to scriptures.

Is it carnal?

Is it based on temporal things?

Is it rooted in fleshly pleasures?

Is it conditional on the words or actions of another?

Is it tinged with feelings of guilt or shame?

If so, it is not pure and therefore, it is not love.

Know your source

“thou hast mocked me…and hast not told me wherein thy great strength lieth”

What is the source of your strength?

One of my favouraite Bible verses is found in the book of Psalms where the Psalmist states in chapter 20 verse 7:

Some trust in chariots, and some in horses: but we will remember the name of the Lord our God.

Later on in the book, the Psalmist declares:

The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusted in him, and I am helped: therefore my heart greatly rejoiceth; and with my song will I praise him.

This idea of God being our Source, our Strength, being the One we put our trust in, is echoed throughout the Bible, and as someone who loves evangelism and the sharing of the Gospel, this is an idea I find myself coming back to time and time again. I love how Paul explains it in his first letter to the Corinthians:

For we are labourers together with God: ye are God’s husbandry, ye are God’s building.

10 According to the grace of God which is given unto me, as a wise masterbuilder, I have laid the foundation, and another buildeth thereon. But let every man take heed how he buildeth thereupon.

11 For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ.

So again I ask, what or who is the source of your strength? Because if it is not Christ, you’ve missed it.

13 For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.

Be careful who you share your heart with

“he told her all his heart”

I doubt this requires any further explanation other than what is said in Proverbs 4:23:

23 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.

Now I would catergorise myself as an eternal optimist, but I don’t play when it comes to issues of the heart. I would say I had to learn the hard way, but I remain grateful for the lessons in any case. because as friendly or as outgoing as a person can be, it’s important to shield your heart, from abuse, manipulation and torment.

Do not give your heart to someone you cannot trust. If you do, they will afflict you – perhaps not intentionally, but inevitably.

I know that must sound pretty cynical, but I say this all with a pinch of salt – we don’t want to be completely cold, and emotionally closed to others, but we really need the Holy Spirit to teach us who to share to and when. Oversharing is really not cute…

Be sensitive to God’s Spirit

“And he wist not that the Lord was departed from him.”

Finally, that leads me to my last and most important point – be sensitive. The Bible tells us that the same Spirit that was in Christ, lives in us, and it allows us to cry out to Him “Abba Father”. I pray that we would each be sensitive to the Spirit of God –  God forbid his Spirit leaves and you do not follow it!

Blessings, x

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